Depression can develop slowly. Someone who is experiencing depression might not realise it.
Often it's a partner, family member or carer who first realises that help is needed. They may encourage their friend or relative to see their GP or find some other support.
We have a separate guide to helping a child or young person with depression.
Signs that someone may have depression
Depression has lots of possible symptoms.
You may notice that someone:
- has lost interest in doing things they usually enjoy
- seems to be feeling down or hopeless
- has slower speech and movements or is more fidgety and restless than usual
- feels tired or does not have much energy
- is overeating or has lost their appetite
- is sleeping more than usual or is not able to sleep
- has trouble concentrating on everyday things
Low mood - signs, tips and self-help
If someone has thoughts of suicide
If you have concerns that someone has suicidal thoughts, talk to them and offer them your support.
Ask them to contact their GP or mental health team - if they have one. Help them to do this, if necessary.
If the person is not willing to contact supports and you are worried about their safety, contact their GP for advice.
If there is an immediate threat of harm to themselves or others, contact the emergency services.
Helping someone who might be suicidal
What to do if someone is attempting suicide
Accompanying someone to mental health services
Tips to help someone who has depression
There are things you can do to help someone who has depression, such as:
- letting them know you care and are there to listen
- accepting them as they are, without judging them
- helping them to stay active, eat well and sleep well
- finding support groups and psychological therapy services that may be available
- staying in touch with them and meet them when you can - they may find it hard to leave home, and become isolated
- trying to be patient
- taking care of yourself
Helping someone to stay active
If the person finds it hard to stay active, offer to do physical activities with them. For example, you could go for a walk or to the gym together.
Help them find ways to stay active if they do not have a lot of spare time. For example, consider going for a walk on their lunch break.
If someone needs extra support
If you think the person needs more support, encourage them to speak to their GP or mental health service.
They may be able to help the person deal with any problems they may be experiencing. For example, they may recommend a therapy such as behavioural activation. This is a type of talking therapy.
What to say to someone with depression
Types of treatment for depression
Mental health support and services
Supporting someone with depression or bipolar disorder - aware.ie