Babies normally have at least 1 period a day of being unsettled. They cry for many reasons.
Crying is your baby’s way of communicating that they need something. As you get to know your baby you will learn what your baby is trying to communicate.
Sometimes a process of elimination will help you know what it is that your baby needs.
Babies cry often to make sure they are safe. The way you respond to your baby's crying is important. If you respond calmly, this helps them to manage their distress and feel secure.
Below are some reasons why your baby may be crying.
Your baby is hungry or thirsty
Your baby may be trying to find your breast, or making sucking motions with their mouth. These are early feeding cues and this is the best time to try feeding your baby.
Responding to your baby's crying can lead to more frequent feeds and a good breastmilk supply.
Your baby needs a nappy change
Some babies dislike the sensation of being wet or dirty. Check if your baby needs their nappy changed.
Your baby may have wind, colic or reflux
If your baby seems unsettled, hold them upright and gently rub or pat their back. Wind your baby during and after each feed.
Your baby may be overtired or overstimulated
Even simple things like new faces and bright lights can be overwhelming for babies.
Take them to a darkened room where it is quiet and calm. Make soothing noises or play soft music.
Your baby may be uncomfortable
Babies dislike being cold or too hot. They like to feel cosy and warm. But be careful not to dress your baby in too many layers.
Check that your baby is not too hot or cold. It is normal for a baby’s hands and feet to feel cool but their tummy should be warm to touch.
Also check that:
- there are no labels from clothing digging into their skin
- there is no hair wrapped around their fingers or toes
Your baby may need to be close to you
Babies need to be close to their parents, to hear their voices, listen to their heartbeats. They also find movement soothing.
You can try:
- skin-to-skin contact
- singing or talking to them
- carrying them with you
- placing your baby safely in a sling
Comforting your baby
One of the most important things you can do is to comfort your baby and make sure they feel safe. Everything is new to them and they may easily feel startled, scared or upset.
Your baby will feel reassured and loved if you comfort them. Simply being close to you may calm them. Your baby is able to recognise your voice right after birth. So hearing you speaking gently, or singing softly will help them feel safe and secure.
Responding to your baby's cry is very important. Not responding or ignoring their cry increases your baby's stress levels.
Soothing your baby when they cry (video)
Looking after yourself
Hearing your baby crying can be very upsetting. Some babies cry more than others. It is normal to feel stressed when your baby is crying, especially if nothing you do seems to be helping.
When you know that your baby’s needs are met, it is time to look after yourself.
Ways to care for yourself include:
- asking for help - someone you trust can take over while you get a break
- calling a friend or family member for help, advice and support
- putting on relaxing music to distract yourself
- taking deep breaths
If the crying does not stop
Sometimes nothing you do seems to work.
You can try:
- going for a drive with your baby
- going for a walk with them in their buggy or pram
- leaving their nappy off and letting them kick their legs
- bathing your baby
- asking for help
Non-urgent advice: Talk to your GP if:
- the crying seems unusual
- you're worried your baby may be ill
- you think you might need support for your own well-being