Pregnancy can be a wonderful time, especially if this is your first baby. It can also bring challenges.
There is a lot to learn. You should support your partner during her pregnancy and after the baby is born.
You can provide comfort when they're stressed or emotional. Or you can take on more of the household chores.
Be aware that pregnancy can be exhausting for your partner. Ask her how you can help her.
Tips for partners during pregnancy - HSE mychild.ie
How partners can help
You can support your partner in many ways.
Physical health
To help your partner with her physical health:
- if you smoke - stop smoking or do not smoke around your partner
- if your partner is trying to eat more healthy food, join her
- do not drink alcohol around your partner too often
- plan activities like going to the cinema or going for walks
- exercise together so she feels encouraged to keep healthy
- carry things that are too heavy for her as her back will be under strain
- if you have other children, you can give your partner a break by taking the children out for a walk or on a day trip
Preparing for birth
Preparing for labour is exciting. It can also be an anxious and emotional time.
To help your partner prepare for birth:
- go with her to antenatal classes
- talk to her and find out how she feels about breastfeeding
- research pregnancy and birth so you know what will happen
- discuss options for the birth so that you know your partner's needs and wishes
Emotional support
Pregnancy brings a lot of emotional change. Your partner is becoming a mother and her hormone levels are changing. It can be a lot to process.
Talk with her about:
- your future as a parent
- what you want for your baby
- the things you are looking forward to with your new baby
- what is important to you as you become a new family
Remember to listen and be patient during the pregnancy and after she gives birth.
Sex during pregnancy
Pregnancy can cause many changes to a woman’s body. She may feel insecure or need reassurance about how her body looks.
Sexual desire during pregnancy is different for everyone. Your pregnant partner may be less interested in sex, or more interested.
Bonding with your unborn baby
You're about to become a parent. Think about what your new role means and how you can make a positive impact on your baby's life.
It might take you a little longer to bond with your baby. This is nothing to worry about. It may be because you're not the person going through physical changes as the baby grows in the womb.
During the pregnancy you can become closer to your baby by feeling for kicks. Ask your partner if she could let you know when the baby is moving and if you can feel her bump. This will help your baby feel more real to you.
Talk and sing to the baby while they're in the womb. The baby can recognise voices and sometimes reacts to different voices.
When you're at appointments for ultrasound scans, watch for your baby's heartbeat.