Bonding with your baby in pregnancy

Bonding with your baby can begin in pregnancy by spending time getting to know your baby. Both parents can bond with the baby during this time.

Your baby’s senses are developing before they are born. When you sing, read and talk to your baby in the womb, they can hear you. These are nice ways to connect with your baby.

From 5 months of pregnancy, your baby can hear all internal sounds such as their own heartbeat. They will also be able to hear your voice and your partner’s voice, and other sounds.

Don’t worry if it takes longer for your partner to feel a special connection. This is normal.


Use everyday activities during pregnancy to talk to your baby. Encourage your partner to talk to your baby too. You are building a bond with your baby by doing this. You may notice that your baby quietens, or starts to move, when they hear certain voices.


Singing songs and lullabies to your baby is a lovely way for them to get to know you. Try to relax and play soothing music. Music may help your baby to relax even after birth.


Touching and stroking your baby bump is another good way to bond with your baby. You may notice your baby responding to your touch. You may also feel your baby kicking.


Try and tune into your baby's movements. This may require taking time out to relax and placing your hands on your baby bump. Also try to remember your own movement and staying healthy. Your GP might guide you on exercises to ensure you stay healthy and strong during pregnancy.

Try gently rocking and moving in time to music.

Listen to their heartbeat

Both parents should try to attend all the antenatal appointments. This is a lovely and sometimes powerful moment when you hear your baby’s heartbeat for the first time. Ultrasound scans use sound waves to create a picture of your baby on a TV screen.

Bonding with your baby after the birth

When your baby is born you should try to continue to sing and talk to them.

Parents interacting with their babies have a positive impact on their developing brains.

Page last reviewed: 18 June 2019
Next review due: 18 June 2022