Dealing with visitors after baby's birth

You may be eager to show off your baby. Your family and friends may also want to share in your joy.

It's important to keep in touch, but you will need time to rest, get to know your baby and establish routines.

It's okay to say "would you mind calling over after 4pm, we have a nap from 2pm to 4pm."

Making visits stress-free

Having visitors can be nice. It can also be overwhelming. Spread out your guests over the coming days or weeks.

Set boundaries so visits are stress-free and work for you. Ask people to text you and check when it's okay to visit. You might need to say this gently to family and friends.

Small groups

Large groups can be overwhelming. Ask people to come in smaller groups, if you would prefer that. It's okay to say "I have a lot of visitors this Monday, would you like to call on Wednesday instead? It would be great to see you and we can have a good chat then."

Ask for help

Many visitors want to cuddle the baby – take the opportunity to have a shower or to drink a cup of tea.

It's okay to ask for help, people are generally delighted to be able to help or do something useful. Be specific in asking for help. For example, "could you collect nappies on the way over" or "would you mind the baby while I shower?"

Don't aim for perfection

Don't work to maintain the perfect home. A messy home can be common when you have a baby or young children.

Have comfy clean clothes on standby. This will help you feel better about yourself even if you have not had time to shower.

When you might not want to have a visitor

If there is someone who you feel might outstay their welcome, consider meeting them for a coffee in town or visit them.

Ask people who are sick not to visit.

Page last reviewed: 15 March 2018
Next review due: 15 March 2021