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Advice for parents who live apart

Many parents live separately and are positively involved in their child's life. It's important for children to have a relationship with both of their parents, as much as possible.

What you can do:

  • support and encourage your child to keep in contact with their parent
  • share copies of school reports - both parents should be aware of their child’s progress and development
  • tell the other parent about events like school plays, parent and teacher meetings, and other activities which parents are expected to attend
  • keep your child's parent informed of any medical issues or issues at school
  • have consistent rules for your child for things such as mealtimes, bedtimes, homework, treats, acceptable behaviour - this will
  • avoid any negative effects on your child's behaviour caused by moving between parents’ homes

It is important that your child feels that they belong in your home and that they are not just visiting. Simple things like letting them have a special blanket, toys and a place for their toothbrush can help with this.

You can make your child feel at home by involving them in decorating their room and making space for them. Simple things can help like having their own special things with them such as special blanket or toys, a place for their toothbrush, and a drawer for their belongings.

page last reviewed: 18/09/2018
next review due: 18/09/2021