How to care for your partner during breastfeeding

Your partner needs your help to begin and continue breastfeeding. Even if friends and relatives are helping also, you should be the main source of support.

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Tips for caring for your partner

Here are some ways you can help:

Educate yourself about breastfeeding

Attend a breastfeeding preparation class with your partner to learn all about breastfeeding your baby.

Read information about getting breastfeeding off to a good start. Remember two heads are always better than one to absorb the information.

Attend breastfeeding support group

Go to your local breastfeeding support group with your partner while she is pregnant to meet the facilitator of the group. If you're male, check in advance if you can attend as some groups are only open to women.

Encourage your partner to meet and chat with other mothers to get advice and support.

Skin-to-skin contact

After the birth, help your partner while she is holding your baby in skin-to-skin contact.

Help her to position your baby near the breast in order to get ready for feeding. Your midwife will support and guide you both.

Set up a feeding area

When you go home from the hospital, set up a feeding area for your partner. This should be a comfortable chair, a small table with a drink and snacks, the remote control or a book nearby.

If possible, be with your partner for a lot of those early feeds so you can both learn the skill of breastfeeding.

Bond with baby

Connecting with your baby is important both for you and your partner.

Enjoy some of the following activities with your baby:

    • skin-to-skin contact
    • bath time
    • comforting your baby after a feed
    • nappy changing
    • a relaxing walk
    • having cuddle time

Help out at home

You can make life at home easier for your partner by:

  • limiting visitors and taking advantage of offers of help from family and friends
  • placing a list of chores in the kitchen - this can be a great way of reminding people of the kind of help you’d appreciate
  • doing the grocery shopping or setting up online grocery shopping that includes delivery
  • trying to get home on time if you are back at work

Speak to and comfort your partner

Tell your partner you love her and how proud you are of her. Give encouragement and listen to any concerns she has.

Remind her the early days and weeks of breastfeeding are temporary. Settling into breastfeeding and parenthood takes time.

Be flexible about sleeping

Late evening and night time can be busy. Your baby feeds often and will sometimes take a number of feeds together. Going to bed early helps, but try to be flexible about sleeping so that you can be there for your partner as much as possible.


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Get help and support

If your partner is having breastfeeding challenges, the most important thing you can both do is ask for help.


Page last reviewed: 15 March 2019
Next review due: 15 March 2021